It’s been too long (as always) since I’ve written, but it’s a sunny June day and Bon Iver released a new song and it’s a new moon and I’m feeling creative and inspired and my fingers have just been itching to glide across my keyboard in waves of thoughts and emotions and exhalations of feelings held on my heart and deep in my lungs for too long.
All of it has combined and jumbled together and resulted in the following list of intentions for June.
- Live deeper. Deep conversations. Deep emotions. Deep and raw and real and BOLD prayers. You deserve more than a shallow life.
- Open the windows more often. Feel the sun on your skin.
- Tell your truth. Even when (especially when…) your truth involves putting up a boundary.
- Re-instill the social media timelines on your phone. Take pictures for you, not for them (whoever “they” are). Take in the beauty that surrounds you and thank the Artist for it without needing to post it anywhere. It was created for you.
- Move your body. Nourish it. Give it the love it deserves. And give your mind the love it deserves by not getting down on yourself if there’s ever a day where you don’t move and you don’t nourish.
I’m looking forward to writing again in July and letting you know how I’ve done with these. I know I won’t always do it perfectly, but in the meantime I’ll hold it all loosely and breathe a little deeper as I shed what’s unnecessary and get back in alignment with the things that bring joy and peace to my soul.
In case no one has told you lately, you deserve a life full of things that bring joy and peace to your soul too. Don’t ever think you don’t.
This morning I got the chance to catch up with a dear friend, one who’s walked with me through a lot of the ups and downs that characterize the seasons we navigate in our mid-20s. I was sharing with her that looking back on where I was a year ago takes my breath away — I don’t recognize the girl who was trying to live and love and figure things out this time last year, and I don’t recognize the circumstances by which she was surrounded.
I wrote this list on the eve of my 26th birthday, back in early September of 2018. I was transitioning out of a season of stripping away, and I felt reflective and hopeful despite having no idea what life had in store for me.
It took me until just a couple of weeks ago to come to the realization that the season of stripping away was really just creating space for my heart and soul to be filled in new and stunningly beautiful ways, and when I made that realization for myself I revisited my list with a new perspective, newly ready to face the lessons that I learned during one of the most challenging years of my life.
So, without further ado, here’s my list of 25 things I learned at 25, unedited and in no particular order.
- Yes you can do that thing. This is the most important thing that 25-year-old Kaeli learned. Regardless of what it is, no matter if it’s big or small, you can do it. Want to be a gym-goer? Go. Want to learn to cook better? Cook. Want to clean your room or do a yoga flow or learn Spanish? You can. You have the time and you have the capability. This is your permission to Do That Thing.
- Take social media breaks.
- Say yes to coffee.
- Be the one who initiates. Especially if no one is asking you to coffee.
- People care less about what you’re doing than you think. Everyone is just worried about their own self, and therefore no one remembers that embarrassing thing you said or did.
- Your voice matters.
- Everyone’s timeline is different.
- Self-care is for everyone and it’s not a sign of weakness.
- It’s okay to say no. I’m going to say that again. It’s okay to say no.
- It’s really all for His good.
- Don’t put God-sized expectations on human-sized humans. He should be your source and your refuge. You can expect people to treat you well, but don’t expect them to carry all of your burdens and heal all your hurts. Only He can do that.
- Walk through open doors.
- Put the phone down.
- Pretending to dislike things that are popular doesn’t make you cooler or more interesting.
- Stay up-to-date on the news.
- Carry a journal with you. Inspiration can strike at any time and it doesn’t stick around for long.
- People (including you) are resilient.
- There is beauty in alone time.
- Ask for what you want.
- Softness and strength can co-exist. Own your duality, dear one. You can be soft and strong, content and driven, oceans and mountains. Anyone who puts you in a box is doing you a disservice, so don’t put yourself in one either.
- Get in the Word.
- Love unapologetically.
- You deserve the good that is coming to you. And it’s coming.
So there you have it. It’s a little disorganized and imperfect but hopefully there were one or two things in there that inspired you to look through a bit of a different lens when considering your circumstances. If you don’t take anything else out of this list, just read that last one again. The good is coming, dear friend. It’s always coming.
Stay beautiful. – K